I've become so apathetic about work and
just want it to be finished.
I'm feeling like I would like to stop working with
other people's children and start
spending all my days with my own.
My consent conundrum...I love my job but hate being a
working mother.
Thank God for my summer's off---only 11 more days!
I need to get this house clean--I've lost control.
I am the world's worst housekeeper. I totally admit it.
It's embarrassing. My mom said when I was little and she'd
try and make me help with housework I would throw my body
down on the ground and sob.
To this day that is how I react inside my head everytime
I'm faced with cleaning. I hate it. I also hate living in a dirty house.
Ugh.
In fall, I'm back to full time for the school year...
I think I'm going to get someone help me out every other week.
I've already got some names.
Tim will bitch and say we can't afford it but I say there is no price
for my sanity. If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy....
He will suck it up and realize it's a good idea once he sees
how I am so much more pleasant to be around.
I think I'm going to have someone come in and do a deep clean for me
as soon as school's out so that I can start fresh and at least
maintain it for a while over the summer...
That is my new plan.
I'm getting giddy with happiness just thinking about it.
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hopeful
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exhausted
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melancholy
Baby's awake....I'll try and post more later....you know, if I have internet.....
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irritated
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hungry
Of course, by the time we saw a doctor she looked 100% better and her temp had gone down to 99.1. They said that she just has a stomach virus that's been going around and just to watch her for signs of dehydration. I'm glad I took her in though, better safe than sorry especially with a 3 month old. Ugh. That was horrible. I was so freaked out when I first saw her lying in her crib. The doctor said that we'll probably all get this bug so just to lay low. Great. I called DH at work to tell him what was going on and once he heard that Addie was fine he started obsessing over how he's going to get sick and he's got a huge week at work and he can't be sick....he's so male. It's so like him to start being a big baby about getting sick before he even gets sick.
Please God...I do not want to deal with another barf fest in this house. I simply can not go there now.
Addie just fell sound asleep after nursing for only a few minutes ( I set her in the bouncy seat for a second to change Zach's diaper and she was out within minutes). I think i'm just going to let her sleep in there instead of putting her in her crib so I can watch her and she's upright in case she throws up again.....my poor baby.
We had a fun 4th of July weekend despite the fact that my MIL is a nut job. I'll update about that later. Must go do a load of vommity baby laundry.
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anxious
That used to be me. I'm not even complaining about that. If that were still me I'd be sad deep down and wish I had two beautiful little heads to kiss goodnight. I just, sometimes, miss that old life. It's not like I can't have a night out here and there if I want it but when I do get that chance I just kind of feel like cinderalla at the ball. I know that at midnight it will all be over and I'll still have to wake up at the crack of dawn and deal with dirty diapers and breastfeeding and "I want my juice in my Diego cup Mommy, NOT my Cars cup!!!" So, it seems kind of pointless to even try and get that life back and so we usually end up staying home and maybe having a cheap glass of wine before our 10:30 bedtime if we're feeling really crazy. :) I don't know...I'm babbling randomly again.
I guess I'm a little bitter and resentful of Tim. Even though I'm happy for him to go out if he gets the chance and I'm genuinely glad that he gets to have a night away and relax and have fun. He's always begging me to call my girlfriends and go for a girls night or something. And we keep saying we're going to get a babysitter one of these days and go out on a date night. He just doesn't get that a) Addie's still too little for me to feel comfortable leaving her with anyone other than one of our parents or my sister. b) all of those people live too far away and to organize that would just be a fiasco c) even if I left her with him I'm still not totally comfortable cause she's breastfed and doesn't totally dig a bottle so I'm worried the whole time I'm gone that she's not eating and freaking out and he's getting all anxious and tense d) my boobs don't realize that I'm away from the baby so they keep on working and engorged, leaky boobs are no fun for anyone involved especially me and e) I'm pissed that he gets to go out knowing that his children are with their mother and their mother's boobs and are therefore totally cared for and happy and content so he doesn't have a care in the world and so he ACTUALLY gets to have a real night out like the old days without the whole Cinderella complex to deal with.
What it boils down to is point e. That's what I resent. It's not his fault and there's nothing he can do to change that so he might as well go out once in a while. It's not like he does it often. Very rarely, in fact. I'm still resentful. I HATE when he says, "You can leave and go out any time you want, Jen. Why don't you call your friends more often?" I've rattled off all the above reasons but I still don't think he gets it. A mother can physically leave her children but never, ever mentally leaves them so there's really no such thing as a break. Ever. Again, I'm not complaining. That is what it is. And it's what I signed up for and I wouldn't want to live a life without being a mom. Just don't tell me I need to get out of here once in a while and take a break as though that's truly a posiblity. At least right now. Ugh.
Okay, this totally turned into a weird rant. I didn't even realize I was so pent up with all this angst or whatever. Now I truly am exhausted. I'm going to go kiss my beautiful sleeping babes one more time and then crawl into my cozy bed. There must me someone out there right now in a lonely, smoky bar with no sleeping babies in their near future who wishes they could have my little life for one night. Right? ;)
Goodnight everyone.....
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grateful
I swear the world is ending. It's been raining for days. I can't believe our basement hasn't flooded.
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cranky
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confused
It was the summer before my last year of college and I was getting ready to go on a 6 week study abroad trip to Europe. Oh, how times have changed....
5 snacks I enjoy?
Hummus and Sea Salt pita chips
Cheetos
cheese and crackers
a bowl of cereal
pizza rolls
5 things on today's to-do list?
Straighten the house
laundry
take Zach to the pet store to get fish food for his new fish
work on homework for the class I'm taking
go grocery shopping
5 things I would do if I were a billionaire?
Pay off all of our debts.
Set up trust funds for the kids
Give money to a charity that helps children
build our dream house
Go on a fabulous vacation
5 jobs I have had?
Subway
Waitress at 3 different restaurants
retail clerk in a department store
in home therapist for children with autism
after school program site coordinator for the YMCA
5 bad habits?
Snapping at my husband when I'm stressed
eating when I'm bored, sad, or angry
saying inappropriate things without thinking first, especially if I'm nervous
using bad words when I'm angry/emotional
procrastination
5 places I have lived?
Green Bay, WI
Kohler, WI
St. Louis, MO
Greensboro, NC
Milwaukee, WI
5 random things about me?
I love to travel, but rarely do
I love to read big novels, but rarely do
I wish I had more motivation to start an exercise program cause this baby pooch ain't going away on it's own, apparently
I could spend 8 hours in Target if it were possible
A Grande Mocha from Starbucks is heaven on earth to me
5 people who also need to be tagged?
anyone who feels the urge
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This is an article from this week's Newsweek written by a mother whose child has a peanut allergy. I burst out crying when I read it. This completely captures and validates everything I've felt during the past year since we found out about Zach's allergy. The frustration I feel when people, especially close family members, roll their eyes at me when I start getting anal about what Zach's eating or exposed to (i.e. insisting that my mom not serve a carrot cake filled with nuts at a recent family gathering, or losing my mind when I found out my in-laws let thier friends eat peanuts and throw the shells on their garage floor while Zach was in the house--yes that really happened) is so perfectly captured. The last line of the article is what sent me over the edge. I want to write the author a thank you note or something.
http://www.newsweek.com/id/139437
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thankful
Addison has slept through the night for the last 5 nights in a row! We put her to bed between 9 or 10 and she sleeps until around 5:30 or so. Good enough for me. At 5:30 I just bring her into bed with us and nurse her and we go back to sleep until "The Terror" whips open the bedroom door and exclaims, "Get up Guys! The sun is up!" This happens around 7am. Zach's behavior is slowly getting more managable. He definitely has his moments but I think some of the flare ups that were happening all the time right after we brought the baby home are dying down. He actually went grocery shopping with me yesterday and made it through the entire store without wigging out. A lady in the checkout lane even referred to him as "awefully cute" Wow. And to think there were days I thought for sure we were going to get kicked out of that very store.
We were just going through old videos trying to edit them and get them all organzied and I found one of Zach shot exactly a year ago this week. It's crazy! I remember thinking he had such strong language at the time, which he did, but it's nothing compared to now. He was talking in 2 or 3 word sentences a year ago and now he'll babble on and on in an an endless dialoge and utters phrases like, "Actually, I'm not gonna do that." or "MOM, I was just pretending to be naughty!" That's the other thing. He's taken to calling me "Mom". What's up with that? Big kids call their mother's "mom". Not my baby. I can't believe he's going to be 3 next month. Turning 2 I could deal with. 2 is still a baby. This 3 business is nuts. 3 year olds are kids. They go to preschool and wear underpants and have friends and stuff. How did this happen? In my head, sometimes, I'm still a kid. How is it possible that I could have 2 of my own?
Something about having two children has gotten me all saturated in my own "momness" I'm really feeling the part. I'm sporting the mom capri pants all the time now (never the mom jeans, have no fear). I've got that harrassed look on my face all the time. My hair is never washed. I find things in the bottom of my purse like single socks and nooks and and matchbox cars and packs of wet naps I stole from McDonald's cause, you know, "just in case". I literally have forgotten that my breasts are supposed to be private parts of my body. That's not good. I see them totally as a means to feed my baby and soothe her. I forgot that they used to be perky (well, kind of) and look good in little black dresses. I've forgotten that most people don't wear bras with the quick release snappy do hingy that lets the girls out to breathe in a moment's notice. I swear to God, I almost answered the door the other day with one of my boobs just hanging out in the breeze. How did I turn into a human cliche?
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contemplative
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annoyed
So, we've already been to the doctor and are back home. The office ended up being only 5 minutes from our house. Nice. Sooo, Zach is having his adnoids removed on Fri. June 6th (my mom and sister's b-day, incidentally). Apparently, this is no big deal at all. And apparently, his doctor is really dreamy and I was really happy I took the time to put on a nice shirt and some lip gloss before we left home. Not that I am in the market or am the type that would have a random affair with my child's physician, but...damn. He was handsome in a really artificial way. Longer wavy hair, chisled bone structure and a really good dresser, slightly older (late 40's). He seemed more like he should be a plastic surgeon in L.A. rather than a pediatric ENT from Waukesha, Wisconsin. Funny.
Oh, so back to Zach...:) I guess this is literally a 5 minute procedure done in the surgery center adjecent to the doctor's office. They give him some gas, then put in an I.V. after he's asleep, take out said offensive adnoids, and wake him up 5 min. later. He gets to sit with me for about 30 min. while he wakes up and then we go home to have popsicles for the next 24 hours. Done deal. Much different than when I had this done 25 years ago. I remember being in the hospital for 2 days. Crazy.
Well, my baby girl is rooting around her bouncy seat and snorting like a piglet....it must be time to eat!
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good
Zach's got an appointment with an Ear, Nose, Throat specialist later this morning. When we went to the allergist the week before last for his annual peanut allergy checkup I asked them to test him for other environmental allergies because he constantly has a runny nose, sneezes, and breathes through his mouth. It turns out he has no other allergies but has HUGE adnoids. The allergist referred us to an ENT. It looks like he's probably going to have to have them removed. We'll wait and see what the doctor today says as far as timing....ugh. I know it's a completely routine, minor surgery but the thought of my 2 1/2 year old having surgery scares the crap out of me.
In other news....Addison slept through the night last night!!!! Woo hoo!!! Okay, okay, so I can't get excited because she had her 2 month check up yesterday and got immunizations so I'm sure that's why she was such a sleepy head. Oh well. 7 hours of sleep in a row should last me a while. :) Addie weighed in at 10 pounds exactly and is 22 inches. She started off at 6 pounds 15 ounces and 20 1/2 inches. All that constant breastfeeding has paid off! ;) Even though she's only at the 25th%ile for weight and 50th for length. That's fine, for sure. I'm just comparing her to Zach who was at the 90th percentile on everything until about 18 months old.
The pediatrician said she was developmentally advanced in "head control". I just know she's going to be a genius. I mean, advanced head control at 9 weeks?....we should definitely sign her up for gifted and talented classes right now. ; ) Okay, I'm having a little inside joke with myself. Scarcastic poking fun at parents that torture me in my profession. Perhaps all the sleep I got last night is having the opposite affect on me. I'm feeling a little punchy.
Happy Wednesday everyone!!
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giddy
In other news, my friend called today as if summoned by God Himself, and asked if she could pick me up tonight and take me out for margaritas....woo hoo!!!! I'm SO EXCITED!! Tim will be home in about 1/2 an hour and she'll be here soon after. This will be the first time he's been in charge of both kids by himself and the first time I've been more than 100 yards away from Addison, um EVER, but it'll be fine. I really need a break. We're just going to a Mexican restaurant about 2 miles from my house so, no big deal. I've been a completely attached mama for 2 months so I think I deserve 2 hours to myself, finally. Can you hear me talking myself into this? Why am I such a psycho and afraid to leave? I have to remember that my husband is a very capable parent and that the world will not stop spinning on its axis if I leave for a couple hours. :)
I have more news re: Zach's allergist apt. today but I'll save it for next time. I have to go find some clothes without spit up on them and make dinner for Zach before I go. :)
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anxious
My sister's husband called me in tears to tell me that they were just at the doctor for a routine ultrasound and were told that two of the three babies' hearts had stopped beating. Katie is 17 weeks pregnant. Everything has been going so well and she was so positive and optimistic about everything. They have no explanation. They had an u/s 10 days ago and everything was fine. The two they lost were the identical twins. The third baby is completely fine at this point. The horrific part is that in order to save the 3rd baby, she has to continue to carry the other two that died to term. I can't even imagine. Her heart is broken. I've never heard my sister in such profound dispair.
We have a HUGE shower planned for memorial day weekend. Around 70 guests have been invited. I have to compose a letter today to send out to everyone to let them know that it's going to be postponed. We still want to have a shower for the baby but Katie wants to wait until the pain of this loss isn't so raw and everyone can be happy and celebrate the life they still have.
She was going to have 3 boys....I had already started to love them and they're not even mine....how could this happen?????
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sad
I just came up here to post (finally) and both kids started screaming at the same time the second I sat down....Ugh.
Addison slept from 11pm until 4am in her own crib last night!!! Woo hoo!!!!
Addie's getting a double chin and rolls in her thighs...so cute. And, she's smiling at us all the time.
Zach says hilarious things constantly, is refusing to be potty trained (No underpants Mamma, I too yittle. Maybe in summertime), and is fighting his afternoon nap.
Also, I'm being stalked by a gaggle of Jehova's Witnesses. They figured out I'm at home all the time and come to my house once a week. Please stop trying to save my soul and let me get back to poopy diapers and scraping teddy grahams out of the couch cushions. Thank you.
Okay, can't take the crying, must go deal.
I miss LJ. I'll be back someday.....:)
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